爱人以德
Love the People in Accordance with Rules of Moral Conduct

爱他人要以合乎道德规范为原则，不能无原则地偏私偏爱、迁就纵容。 “德”即道德规范，也指人的道德品行，它是维护良好社会秩序的内在依据。“爱人”属于个人层面的情感，而“德”则是全社会应共同遵守的规范。 “爱人”若不“以德”，则既违背了社会的共同规范，也损害爱人者和被爱者的个人品德。“爱人以德”体现了尊崇道义、注重社会秩序及公共利益的 精神。
Love of others must follow the rules of moral conduct, and not be unprincipled, selfish or indulgent. De(德) here refers to moral behavior and consciousness, and is the foundation for upholding proper social order. Loving the people is on a personal emotional level, while morality is a set of commonly accepted rules of social conduct. If not grounded in morality, loving the people will go against the common social norms, and harm the integrity of both giver and receiver. The term expresses a spirit of respect for morality, social order, and common good.



引例 CITATIONS

曾子曰：“……君子之爱人也以德，细人之爱人也以姑息。吾何求哉？吾得 正而毙焉斯已矣。” （《礼记·檀弓上》） （曾子说：“……君子爱人要遵循道德规范，小人爱人则是一味迁就求得安宁。 我还求什么呢？死的时候都能合乎规范，这已经心满意足了。”）
Zengzi said, “…The man of virtue follows the codes of moral conduct when loving others, while the petty person is indulgent for the sake of peace. What do I wish for? I shall be more than satisfied that even by the time I die I will have followed all the codes of conduct.” (The Book of Rites)
君子爱人以德，不可徇情废礼。 （褚人获《隋唐演义》第二十三回） （君子爱人要遵循道德规范，不能曲从私情而坏了规矩。）
The man of virtue follows the rules of moral conduct when loving others, and does not break them for purely personal reasons. (Chu Renhuo: Romance of the Sui and Tang Dynasties)