Now it becomes a hot topic about love with offers, I experience the same situation. Several offers come, but girlfriend leave. I think I should tell something to inform the prospective U.S. students.(I am sorry that I have to write in English due to system installation limitation)  　　 　　I am not afraid to give my situation here. I was graduated from Tsinghua and now I am major inComputer Networks in U.S.A. My offers were comed in Spring semester. Although I did not get offers in March and April, I spent time to a girl. I got to know her on 320 bus station and decide to "trace" from that day. Now  I think I did the following thing wrong:  　　 　　(1) Due to our background, what we said sometimes may stimulatie people from other universities. To be honest, for example, most Tsinghua students do not like to pursue Ph.D. in Tsinghua directly, but if we said these to a student pursuing Ph.D. in other univs, what is the result? If we helped and instructed them too much(maybe), they feel we are boasting. So, from beginning, no matter how hard I tried in the late, the result is rejection. Sometimes may be our talking about famous university in China or U.S.and our chance in future may stimulate them.  　　 　　(2) Don't look for a girl who is beatiful and sensitive if you are an honest and straightforward person. She always have so many boys around her. Your learning and cleverness are useless especially she was skillful to deal with such things. You can do works for her, but when you invite her to go out, she can promise you from beginning and reject you for any kinds of reasons.  　　 　　(3) Do not feel major in CS or EE is something that can be attracting, especially for the girl who is also major in these majors or tranfer to these majors. Maybe you have ability to earn much money and have a good chance to find a good job, they are not so important. I know just because we can achieve high score that we can major in CS or EE in famous university, but they dislike these, they are pursuing spirit satisfaction from literature and art and these may be just our deficiency. I think that is a reason that I was pulled out waiting queue no matter how many times I tried.  　　 　　(4) Don't go totally following friend's suggestion. Every one has his/her own character and what you show is most important. I am satisfied with my ability  to handle relationship with friends and teachers, but how to deal with feelings and show the characteristics that can appeal girls is a difficulty for me.  　　 　　(5) Do not waste chance at any time. I got an offer in May, it was an ordinary university. Since I think it is better for me to "conquer" her before I go abroad, so I delayed the offer until the deadline. But the result was still rejection. (Of course, if you are sure you can be succeed in the end, it is worthy)  　　 　　(6) We should analyze before we can "trace". We should not be attracted by their appearance. What they can select is far more than ours. Although in the end, maybe her "temporaray" selection, in our view, may be worse than us in all aspect, but that guy may be skilled in "trace" girls and I am not sure an ordinary Tsinghua student can win the game.  　　 　　(7) Do not be urgent to look for one. You know you are looking for a person that will accompany you in whole life and beauty will elapse soon. Although it is difficult for a person will go abroad soon and the embarrass situation overseas, but careful consideration is absolutely necessary.  　　 　　Although I have come U.S.A for a period, but such things are still appearing in my dream sometimes(Especially sometimes received her emails). I know feeling life is important for a young student living lonely in foreign countries, but we should get some lesson from our own or friends' experience. It will cost you a lot of time and spirit, but the result may be zero and the hurt may affect your study aboard for a long time.  　　 　　Rejection may be difficult to bear up, but what I can do now it is just bless her future.

看着真累人。。。一句一句理解。。。
望天，咱的英语还要继续努力。。。
我的四级啊。。。泪

这个。。。给男生的建议。。。伤心男的建议。。。同情。。。理智和情感

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Don't look for a girl who is beatiful and sensitive if you are an honest and straightforward person.

i'm sorry i can't agree with that~

STRAIGHTFORWARD IS NOT THE SAME AS STUPID..
It doesn't mean that u're that straightforward then u have no idea what u're doing and what that girl suppose to do...

That's an excuse for ur naiveness..

Well, it is really a big problem of love and offers
but in my opinion, actually it depends,depends on which you think is more important
anyway, your suggestions are almost very rational
yet sometimes we may be emtional...

54我吧。。。我不知道想表达什么了。。。

54我吧·

maybe。。。。

现在成为热门话题,关于爱,我经历了同样的情况。几个提供了出来,但女友离开。我想我应该告诉一些美国学生向未来。(对不起,我要用英语写,由于系统安装的限制)。
　　
　　我不害怕给我的处境。我毕业于清华,我现在在美国的主要inComputer网络提供了我在春季学期。虽然我没有在三月和四月,我花时间去一个女孩。我知道她在320汽车站和决定“痕迹”从那一天。现在
　　我认为我做错的事情之后。
　　
　　(1)由于我们的背景下,我们所说的,有时会stimulatie人从其它大学。老实说,举例来说,大多数清华大学的学生不喜欢追求博士在清华直接,但如果我们说,这些学生追求其他univs博士是什么结果?如果我们帮助和指导他们太多(可能),他们觉得我们夸口。所以,从一开始,不管我怎么努力在晚,结果被拒绝。有时可能是我们谈论在中国名牌大学的机会在未来我们或分子可能刺激他们。
　　
　　(2)不寻找一个女孩谁是美丽的,和敏感,如果你是一个诚实的、直率的人。她总是有这么多的男孩。你的学习和聪明是无用的,尤其是她处理这样的事情。你可以做的工作对她来说,但是当你邀她出去时,她可以保证你从开始,拒绝任何种类的原因。
　　
　　(三)不觉得主要在CS(EE是那种可以吸引,尤其是女孩也是主要在这些专业或转变到这些专业。也许你已经能赚了很多钱,有一个很好的机会来找到一份好工作,他们并不那么重要。我知道只因为我们取得了较高的分数,我们可以主修CS或开始著名的大学,但他们不喜欢这些,他们正在追求精神满意率从文学艺术,这可能只是我们的缺陷。我认为这是一个原因,我是拿出等待队列无论多少次,我试过了。
　　
　　(四)别走后的朋友的建议完全。每个人都有自己的个性和你所显示的是最重要的。我很满意我的能力
　　处理与朋友和老师的关系,但如何处理感情和特点,可以吸引女生是困难的。
　　
　　(五)不要浪费机会。我有一个提议,它是一个普通的大学。因为我认为这是更好的为我“征服”她之前我出国,所以我延误提供的最后期限。之前,但是结果还是拒绝。(当然,如果你相信你会成功,这是值得的)。
　　
　　(六)之前,我们应该对我们可以“痕迹”。我们不应该被他们的外表。他们可以选择的是远超过我们。虽然在年底前,也许她的“temporaray”评选活动,在我们看来,可能比我们的所有方面,但那家伙可以熟练使用“痕迹”的女孩,我不确定一个普通的清华大学的学生能赢得这场比赛。
　　
　　(七)不急,找一个。你知道你正在寻找一个人,将陪你在整个生命和美貌会消逝。虽然一个人要去国外的尴尬局面,海外,但仔细考虑是绝对必要的。
　　
　　尽管我已经来到美国一段时间,但这种事情仍出现在我的梦想有时(特别是有时会收到她的电子邮件)。我知道生命的感觉是很重要的,因为一个年轻的学生住在国外,但是我们应该得到一些教训我们自己或朋友的经验。你要花费了
　　很多时间和精神,但结果可能是零,伤害可能影响你的学习上很长一段时间。
　　
　　拒绝承担起也许很难,但我现在所能做的只是保佑她的未来。
　    

全是英文，看着头大

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