Here are 20 steps for developing self-esteem.Figue out what your problem is.Realize your problem isn't who you are,it's what you have used tp protect your physical and emotional well being.It's hiding who you are:a beautiful human being,a wonderful source of awareness.Knowledge,creativity,love and joy.If practise self-esteem based on the face that this is who you really are,then your problem wil dissolve.
1.figue out who you really are.
Take selfvalution quizzes.learn  as much as you can about who you are and why you think and feel the way you do.Self-knowledge is a key to success.
2.Decide what you can and can't control.Change and act on the things that are in your control and release the things that are out of your control.
3.Accept responsibility.Finding self-comfidence requires accepting responsibility for your own happiness,and recognizing that you are a product not only of your geneticcade and your environment,but of the choices you make.Begin your day with the words"I am responsible."
4.Make anxiety your ally.Write down your worries for 30 days.Nagging concerns that loom so large in your imagination loss their power on paper.Amazingly, after writing them down the anxiety begin to fade.
5.Recognize that mistakes are opportunities.Keep the setback in perpective.Most mistakes are not personal tragedies;rather the are problems you now have the opportuity to solve."Success",is often a string of failed attempts to get it right.
6.Be brave and take risks.Don't be afraid of mistakes.Resk-taking bulids confidence.When considering any risk,define a clear gool.Review the possitive,practical and pontential losses.Determine wheather the risk is one of the trust,identity or something larger.When you focus on risks that have a large purpose,you can't go wrong.Even if the risk doesn't turn out as you hoped it would,you will gain from it.Act.Take a risk.Be confident-you have earned it.
7.Think and spesk positively.If you hear a compliment or positive statement about someone you know pass that compliment on to them.An Arabian proverb puts it neatly.Blessed is he who speaks kindness;therice biseees he who repeasts it.
8.Learn something new.Create a new hobby.Increase your vocabulary one word a week.Take on a new physical challenge or actively.
9.Spend time investing in your personal growth.This enables joy to flourish amid the fears and difficulties of life.Read self-help books and act on the knowledge.
10.Decisions:the next time you ponder a decision,think of everything that could go right and say to yourself,"What do i have to lose,really?"
11.Smile and be courteous.Use the words please and thank you consistently.
12.Be aware of media's messages.Their goal is make you feel bad about yourself so you you will buy what they are selling.
13.Keep good company.Posotive feeds positive and negative breeds nagative
.If you choose to be around positive people you in turn bacome more positive.
14.Reward yourself.Give yourself and others positivs rewards for being and doing well.
15.Don't accept messages that damage your own self-esteem.It is much easier to improve or change your bahavior when you believe you are loveable and capable.
16.Be aware of the different messages that you hear in your head and remember to turn up the volume on the messages that contribute to your positive self-esteem and to turn down the volume on any message that encourages you to think nagatively about worth or ability.
17.You can improve the quality of messages you have in your head about being lovable and capable.Use "how to " statements in your head and taken action on the answers you receive.Repeat positive affirations to yourself & out loud as much as possible.
18.Negative messages can build esteem as long as they are not attracking yourself worth or defining yourself as incapable.Properly delieved nagative messages say"I care about myself.I am a wortwhile person and can I  learn how to ddo things better."
19.Any thoughts that take us aaway form a positive feeling are not worth having or defending.If you want to be happy,follow your happy feelings,not your unhappy ones.
20.A small success can bring big feeeling of competence.Small steps lead to mire steps.Pack yourself on the back every time you make a small success.Every step counts.Take one step at a time in a positive direction,this is the practice od self-esteem.